A few weeks ago, I went away with a bunch of girlfriends on a shopping trip. It was only 2 days and yet I felt refreshed like I was gone for weeks. I realized how important it is for us women to take time away with other women and how it replenishes us in so many ways to be better wives and mom’s.
I had been running on empty in every area of my life and I needed time to sleep in a comfy hotel bed and not think of anyone else. Let’s be real, no mom sleeps so but well. It’s like our minds are always “on” and we easily wake at the slightest noise.
I needed to eat food that didn’t need to be shared or warmed back up.
I needed to carry a light weighted purse that was not full of toys and wipes.
I needed to have engaging conversations with other women and invest in friendship without constantly being interrupted by a toddler asking for another snack.
I needed to connect with my sister alone, without our kids running around.
Whenever, I take time for myself I feel a sense of guilt. Even though every single day, I give 110%. It’s hard to admit that I need a break.
That I need to be refreshed. That I am burnt out. That I need to vent about life, my walk with God, parenting, and marriage. This is so good for our souls.
It was so lovely. We spent the day shopping at the outlets and eating until our hearts were content.
We enjoyed getting coffee from Starbucks, that I was able to drink while it was still hot! That alone is truly a miracle.
I slept better than I had in years, even waking up at 7am felt like I slept til noon.
The result was that I came home so energized and rejuvenated to be the best mom I could be to my kids. I was excited to put on the million hats that I wear every day and do it with JOY. I felt refreshed. I missed my kids and my husband and was thrilled to be back with them.
Most importantly, my husband was able to fill those roles completely. He was exhausted but, so grateful for my role in our family. These times bring such benefits to our marriage because, it’s so easy to take the other spouse for granted when you are in the midst of your daily routine. Sometimes, we all need that eye opener of what life would be like if we were doing it all alone. It makes us both appreciate each other in a new way.
So, ladies plan something with the close friends that you wish you had more time to spend with. Even if it’s one night away at a local hotel. Just plan it and go. Go get your nails done, shop or go see a “chick flick.” Take a whole day where you can focus on just yourself!
You will come back a better wife, mother and friend. We need this mamas. It’s built into our every being. This is how God made us. We need quality friendships and to build on them. We care so well for everyone else, but we need to care for ourselves too.